How to Get What you Want before 2016 is Over

Did anyone else realize that we're halfway through 2016 and then immediately make a chaotic to-do list?  

This year has actually been full of events so far.  Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris broke up, Prince turned MPLS purple (RIP) and of course,  Donald Trump announced that his whole campaign is a hilarious joke.   (that last one might just be wishful thinking but, yet to be seen) 

On a smaller scale,  look at your own goals and accomplishments you've been hoping to see this year.

How's that stuff a'cookin?

If you're thinking maybe not so well, that's totally fine.  Don't be hard on yourself but know that you are capable of actually seeing your New Years resolutions come to fruition.  

I get a little weary about getting too personal but I have to admit, I feel a little unaccomplished this year.  Well, I don't want to feel that way and I don't want you beautiful people to feel that way either.  

Here are a few ways to get what you want before the year is totally over. 

1. Ask for it

Yes of course this doesn't always work.  But, it does NOT hurt to ask and if the answer is no, move on and find a way around it.  

Something I've learned to accept recently is that failure is going to happen and there's not really much you can do about it, so learn from it and don't break down every time it happens. 

2. Stop altering yourself for others

I use the word "alter" for a reason.  A lot of times when I write (or speak) I think about what I think others want to hear.  This has turned out to be quite a hindrance for my own personal growth.  Literally bending and altering what you'd think or say is just going to bite you in the ass.  Be you(tiful)  amirite? 

Being honest with yourself is wildly important, not only in a professional and creative capacity, but in interpersonal relationships as well.  Stop thinking you're helping by not being honest, you're not helping. 

3. Be patient

I don't actually know how to do this.  But I hear it's helpful.  I'm in the research process, leave me alone. 

4.  Practice gratitude

This probably should've been #1, too late.  

Seriously, go to bed thinking of what you're grateful for and wake up thinking about what you're grateful for and you will find yourself incredibly successful.  Think on the things you want like you already have them.   <3 

5.  Stop f*cking moaning  

I can't handle the complaining people.  I do it myself wayyyy too much.  Just stop.  Nothing will ever be done by whining and moaning about something.  Yes of course it's important to talk your shit out, but then pick yourself up and try to realize that you most likely are going to be okay.   So shut your yapper and do something about it already.  

6.  Do NOT compare yourself to others

Sure fire way to fail.  Becoming discouraged is something I'm very skilled at.  Discouragement almost always leads to quitting and I usually become discouraged because I've compared my own success to someone else.  DON'T DO THIS.  You are sabotaging yourself.  

The ONLY competition you have is yourself.  Period. 

7.  Don't wait  

"I'll just do it tomorrow"  "I'll wait until he calls me first"  

Do it now, idiot. People aren't waiting around for you.  So do what will get you closer to your goal NOW, not tomorrow, NOW. 

8.  Don't panic

Listen.  Things might not always look like you want them to.  Have a goal, but don't hold so tight to exactly what it looks like.  If it's not exactly what you pictured, don't panic and throw it out the window.  Know that you can get exactly what you want but it might not look how you expect. 

Likewise, if you feel like you've been trying forever and still aren't where you want to be, don't panic.  Regroup and step back, take a look at what you're striving for and how you're going about.  It may just be that you need to adjust your methods.  #frankiesaysrelax

9.  Stop judging people

This is such a waste of your energy and also, it's mean.  Think about this, what the f*ck does someone else's choice have to do with you?  Nothing.  If they aren't hurting anyone, leave them the f*ck alone.  When you judge others you automatically are putting negative energy out into the world, and God knows we have enough of that.  

10.  Try empathy

If you have a relational goal, try to be empathetic if your SO isn't exactly giving you what you want.  If you're being honest and they're being honest, it could be that they're just going through something that may not have anything to do with you.  Try not to be quick to a conclusion, empathy is lacking in general so don't allow it to be forgotten in your personal relationships.