Singlia: Timing

I'm not sure who told me that timing is everything, but boy. Were they wrong.  I stray from this notion right around the assumption that things are pretty much completely out of our control. Now that is simply not true, but I understand why a person can feel that way. 

The worst:  Someone comes into your life seemingly effortlessly and despite your cynicism and guards, they become a staple for you, a lovely presence that makes you feel all rosy. They become a daily feature and then poof! They're gone.  

In delving into oneself to figure out what we've done wrong, which one inevitably does;  I personally have found that more often than not, it would seem that the timing was off.  Por ejemplo:  a job ended, stress, one or both just "isn't ready" for a relationship, one or both haven't learned to deal with their emotions and blah blah blah.  

What does that say then, about fate?  Is it that certain relationships come into being to be a lesson and that's why they end.. to make room for the next lesson or God forbid, the actual right relationship?  

If you meet someone and you're bonkers for them and they you, why didn't it work?  Sometimes, it's that those little personality quirks we all have, start to unroll a persons insecurities in a way that is totally unintentional, but alas. It happens.

 If they don't like the way you get feisty and impatient when you're hungry, and it makes them feel uneasy.  You'll inevitably have to say buh bye, or hide your own feelings to tend to theirs... which sounds more sustainable long term?  I know.  It's a hard realization. 

Here's my advice on this one people, let things come as they may (and go as they may) because I don't truly think timing can be off.  If it seems that something would have worked "if only the timing had been right" it may be that the purpose of that particular relationship wasn't to last forever, but instead to teach you something, or perhaps give you a lifelong friend that you got to make out with for a while?  hollah

I know good and well that breakups suck.  I know that when relationships end, it's hard and it hurts.  But, ask yourself this, what have you learned from it? How has that person changed the way you look at things or even the way you look at yourself? 

Timing isn't everything.  Don't be silly enough to think that you have such little control.  The things that you want will come to you and if the boy you thought was it just peaced out, he wasn't it. Period.  Furthermore, don't go changin' yourself for someone because that will lead to resentment.  

Now now, don't get me wrong here.  That guy or girl can come back into your life and could very possibly be it, but if that's the case, they aren't that person yet.  Allow yourself to feel all the feels that come to you, but also know that you do have control, so if you want a handsome, kind, sexy man-- you'll get him.    

Now please excuse me while I move to a Farm Animal Sanctuary and only socialize with species' that walk on all fours.  Because, heartbreak. That's why.